Feel insecure and need to get over it

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Feel insecure and need to get over it
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 7:27pm
I have been here so many times, trying to get over the love of y life: Omar. However there is no need for that anymore because we are back together. i never thought that i was going to get the chanceto do things right again, b/c even though it was his fault i asted the way i did. i made many mistakes too. Anyhow, we are back together and so unbelievably happy. it's really surprising...but not perfect. Before my boyfriend and i went out, he had a girlfriend (obviously) and he was verymuch in love with her but she hurt him so they broke up. he later dated me and even though i knew he liked meand wanted to be with me, i always wondered if i was the rebound and worried he'd rather be with her than me. So i let that consume me and pressured him and it didn't help the relationship making it fallapart. i was devastated when we broke up; specially when i found out he went back to her. well it din't work out for them, or for me and the guy i was dating, and mne and Omar ended up together again. It was even better this time. We were in bliss. then we had a pregnancy scare and he got confused and i got insecure, so i dumped him. again i cried and was here at the message board trying to convince my self he was no good, but he's not. And now that we are back together and so happy i a here again because for some reason i cant get over my insecurity of him still wanting to be with her. we have been together for almost 2 years now and i cant get Her out of my head. He is the best guy in the world and he has never done anything to make me insecure. It's something that i have done my self, and i cant let it ruinmy relationship again. I know we love eachother and i know he wants to be w/ me. i also understand that everyone comes with baggage, so how do i get over these insecurities. i cant let that get in the way of my relationship anymore. what can i do to help ease my fears?
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Registered: 02-27-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 7:39pm
our situations are similar, learn from my mistakes!! Love freely without a net. If it doesn't work for the two of you its going to hurt no matter what! there's no protection from hurt when your heart is on the line. But if you stay guarded you'll never have the peace of mind knowing that you gave it your all! Stay appreciative do all the little things that he does for you at least then you know you gave it all you had. Don't waste your moments with him waiting for something bad to happed cause then it will...I should know. Life is but a series of fleeting moments and nothing hurts as much as regret. If its meant to be you'll only know it if you invest your true self !

All the best !

Donna

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:08pm
You are so right but i just dont know how to that. i am trying really hard not to think of her but for some reason she doesnt escape my thoughts. i am sorry to hear about your pain. trust me i understand b/c i have been through it w/ him twice and i still ahvent learned my lesson. what am i to do?