feeling like he is no more into me,want advice

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Registered: 10-03-2012
feeling like he is no more into me,want advice
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 2:40am

i am just coming out of delievery i have baby girl with cezaer opration and i am in my parents house from last 2 months.My husband is not do any care about me.he is not talking.i tried to talk to him about love, romance.i posted him love e card, sex card but couldnt get any response.i am frustrated and soo tense.he even not telling whats in his mind , what he want and what problem he have,but no reply. if i ask him he just said dont ask too many question , i m busy.</p>

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 11:48am

You just had a baby and your husband doesn't want anything to do with you? There has to be more to this story...what is it?When did this behavior start?

I say if he doesn't shape up then divorce him.You can't spend your precious time dealing with a grown man who is acting like a child. YOU just had a baby!! You need to take care of that infant first and foremost..period!

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 12:47pm

You are living with your parents for the last two months.  Where does he live?  Did you live together before you had the baby?  Why aren't you living with him?  After two months, you should be recovered from the surgery enough to take care of your baby.  You need to explain more.  Why don't you live with him?  Why can't he stay with you at your parents house?  Was he "in love" with you before you became pregnant?  If a man won't talk to you, won't answer your questions, then maybe you should get a divorce, and let him pay child support.  A man doesn't stop loving for no reason, unless he didn't love you before the baby came.

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Registered: 10-03-2012
Sat, 06-28-2014 - 3:45am

thnx for your reply, actually i belong to india in our culture girls live with there inlaws mostly and with her husband.i have no one over there to look after me n my baby in surgury and no one can give me hand to look after my babies as i already have 3year old baby girl. My new baby is just 1mnth old.i came to my parent house i mnth before surgury coz i was quite weak n need care and no one giving much in my in laws house.yup he loves me quite before pregnancy.even during pregnancy he was good to me some time but most of the time he was rude, he even doesnot care about my situation that i am pregnant, he just get harsh with me most of time.if i wasnt feeling well in pregnancy and i said to him i m feeling sick or something like that he most of the time say its just your drama.

Actally i think his mother and younger sister as thet live with us good impact on his mind.they are feeding him against me .his parents house is just five mint drive away from my parent house but he doesnt visit us whole week.

during pregnancy even though doc said to me i shouldnt have sex from as seven mnth started but i never let down his desire untill i came to my parent house.


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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 07-05-2014 - 11:28am

  This has cultral implications that Westerners are not versed in.  While it seems the same it may not be as it is in America.  There are so many differences as to be alien.  Advice we would give maybe compleatly off.