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| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 11:42am |
I have been married eight months, my husband and I had a great relationship until a week before the actual planned weeding he cheated on me, since then, things changed and even though I forgave him (I thought so) things never seemed to go back to normal..from my part specially.
We did not get married when we had planned, instead we waited three months..
Well now this is the deal..he was really worried about work and other issues and when I needed to be there for him, I was not..Now he talks to a co-worker at least two hours a day on the phone, because she is his "friend" and she is someone who is giving him support, as he says nothing is going on between them... I left my house almost two weeks ago because I could not deal with him treating me so bad, I thought he was going to look for me and that by me leaving it would have made him "react" instead, it seems that his calls to her are even more frequent and longer in length..the nights that I have tried to go back he says really hurtful things that make me leave with out looking back, though he was telling me to come back home, he has stopped, and he doen't even call me!
I need help and I know I do, I am really worried that he is having an affair with this women, and I am starting to feel guilty that I left in the first place, giving her a chance to swoop right in...but I tried believe me to be there for him, but he was just so mean all the time, and not himself..I just couldn't take it being there with him, when all he said is he needed his space and time and him acting like he didn't even want to be with me Im starting to blame myself for everything..he doesn't even call me at all and I am here dying to talk to him.
He is not even sure where i am staying and he still doent call..is it that he doesnt love me anymore, but how can "it" just go away

This co worker has taken the place of what should be your job..the supporter, freind, confidant. And e has let her, or should I say, given that responsibilty to her instead.
I really dont want to upset you any more than you already are, but I think its important that you see what he is doing. He hasnt called be cause, lets face it, why should he? He has this woman that he can share his feelings with, someone to occupy his time. He is the one that screwed up, yet he has made you to feel as if you did something wrong.
I think you know deep in your heart that you deserve better than how he is treating you...
Keep in touch,
How long have you been with this man in total? Take that number and divide by two and that will be the number of months you will hurt after you divorce this selfish man. The rest of your life is yours to enjoy fully with no pain. Small sacrifice now, big gain later!...If you stay with this man it will destroy you.
My 2 cents
Brent
p.s. what an a$$ he is.