Feeling Hurt

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Registered: 02-06-2004
Feeling Hurt
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Fri, 02-06-2004 - 3:45pm
I've been in a relationship for almost a year come next month. My boyfriend just called me from out of town on a business trip and said he needed to talk to me when he gets in on Sunday. I asked him was it about our relationship, he said yes. I then asked him if he wanted to break up he said yes, because he's not feeling the relationship. I told him I'm willing to stick in there and work it out, while he goes through whatever he's going through. See he told me a month ago he never had a chance to hell from separating from his wife a few years back. We are supposed to talk about everything in depth on Sunday. I'm just not ready to give up on the relationship, besides there are kids involved in this my child and his child, and we've all become real close to one another. I love him deeply and he loves me too. Could someone help me with this.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cdiva74
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 3:50pm
What he's saying is that he jumped into this relationship after breaking up his family and intertwined his child with yours, all for the sake of comfort, convenience, security, benefits, and assurance.

He was adrift, he was alone, he was unsure of himself and what he wanted out of life - you came along and represented what he thought he wanted - so he latched on.

Now that he's been divorced awhile, figured out that being single isn't a death sentence, that he's able to cope without "needing" a relationship - everyting he considered of value about your relationship is now a burden, so he wants out.

That's called rebounding...which is why you shouldn't involve your kids in dating. Kids don't date....they attach.

If he wants out on Sunday, let it go. You can't convince him this is the best thing he's ever had, or what he really wants.....he knows better than that if he wants to end the relationship.

Erin

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