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feeling neglected
| Sun, 06-13-2004 - 9:01pm |
I've been married for two years and I love my husband very much. I think we have a good relationship, but it's been strained recently because he had to move for work and we only see each other most weekends. We're going to be back in the same place soon, so I hope it will be easier. I've been feeling neglected and unappreciated. My husband works long hours and often on the weekends, so I've done most of the traveling to see him. He's very good about calling me, we speak a couple of times every day. I send cards and letters sometimes and I recently planned a romantic weekend for us. He never does anything like that. I don't know if my expectations are too high, but before we were married he made an effort to make me feel special. I know he loves me and I think he just doesn't think about doing those extra things, but I'd just like to get flowers or something once in a while. I've been thinking about telling him my feelings about this, but I don't want to have to tell him to do something romantic once in a while. If I do tell him I won't know if the gestures are genuine or just out of a sense of obligation. Along the same lines, I was recently at a party for work. My husband wasn't able to go and I ended up dancing a lot with a coworker. He was telling me how beautiful I am and how sorry he is that I'm leaving my job to move back with my husband. Nothing happened beyond that, but I've been thinking about him. It felt so good to be appreciated. I'm not going to have an affair, I take my marriage vows very seriously. I'm not blaming my husband for my behavior, it was inappropriate for me to dance with him and have that kind of conversation, but the lack of attention from my husband makes me crave it. I had hoped that by treating my husband the way I want to be treated he might start to reciprocate, but it hasn't really happened. I want to have a healthy and passionate marriage for the rest of my life, so I want to put my energy into creating that. I just don't know how to get my husband to do the same. What should I do?
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| Sun, 06-13-2004 - 10:21pm |
Just talk to him. Good Luck
