Feeling slighted

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Registered: 05-21-2008
Feeling slighted
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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 5:48pm

Hello~


My sweetie is on a road trip with his son from his first marriage.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 10-13-2008 - 8:05pm

Welcome to the board mylovelasts,


Well it depends on what you expect when he's away, what's happened on previous trips and if he knows about those expectations??





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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 8:22pm
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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 10:52pm
I think you are over-reacting somewhat. He did drop you an e-mail to let you know everything is okay. If you really prefer a phone call or a personal response, you can make sure to mention it to him so he'll know for next time. Being upset or brooding about it is not going to help. You say he is normally very affectionate. I don't think not getting an affectionate call or letter during a four-day period while he's out bonding with his son should be a big deal. You hadn't even really mentioned to him that it was important to you to get a personal note. If you told him to try to call if he could, he probably took that to mean that you wanted to hear that everything was okay. He probably had no idea that you'd be upset that he shared the e-mail. I don't think it's fair to hold a grudge against him for it.
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Tue, 10-14-2008 - 2:59pm

Don't blame your SO for taking some time alone with his son. He needs it and it's the fair and right thing to do. You feel insecure about it as his son does not accept you and you worry that his feelings may rub off on your SO. Sounds like you wanted some reassurance. However, I could understand that it might have felt awkward for him to call you when on a trip with his son. He did email. Give him a break, and give him some space. There's no reason to punish him for having time alone with his son, although you might feel angry with the son. A roll in the hay sounds like a great idea when he gets home.


Best wishes,