Feeling so unattractive to my df, i think he losing interest

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Feeling so unattractive to my df, i think he losing interest
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Sun, 11-13-2011 - 2:33pm
Hello,
I am 35 y. o. I met my df in 2008, right after a tradegy in my life i was 147 lbs. we hav since been trought a lot of ups and downs i hav surgery to hav my tubes reverse to hav a baby wit him, i was pregnant in may lost it in june and has been since tryn to hav another baby. But meanwhile i hav been gaining weight. I am now 164lbs. He still hav a interest in sex with no hesitation but i think he may b turned off a lil by my weight. He often remininse about when i was smaller sayin things lik remember when we went to Miami that dress u worn u were the perfect size". It hurts my feelin and i had started excercising and hav changed my eating habits. But i dnt kno if it bothers me mote thats why i dnt feel sexy to wear lingerie or do any of the sexy things ee use to do, i hate bein on top noe cause i dnt lik the image. So I need help cause i think if its lik this now wats its gonna b lik after i get pregnant and hav a baby. Im sad and a bit depressed because ive always was particular about my weight and being sexy. So any and all help is welcome:-)
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Registered: 11-09-2005
Addendum:: our wedding date is June15, 2013. So more added stress
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Registered: 12-22-2007

Pileggirl, I'm so sorry about your baby.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Why would have children with someone so shallow?
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Registered: 05-20-2009

If YOU think you're overweight, then you should start a proper diet, and an exercise plan, and lose the weight.

Caring about a partner, loving a partner, and being attracted to a partner is about a lot more than the

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Registered: 05-18-2009

I really want to agree with true.blue. And in part, I do. I agree that the most loving and wonderful partners are still human beings with preferences in terms of physical looks. But a loving partner probably wouldn't have the gall to tell you what your "perfect size" is. I think that's a really bad approach.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Well if you don't feel great about the way you look, then I would say that you have to be the one to diet & exercise.

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Registered: 05-18-2009

Just a note... She does say in the OP that he wants to have sex with no hesitation, so the sex itself isn't really a problem

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I know--she's saying that she doesn't want to have sex cause she doesn't feel attractive but if their sex life goes downhill, I don't think that's going to improve their relationship, it's going to cause another problem.