Feeling Trapped

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Registered: 08-26-2005
Feeling Trapped
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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 12:31pm

Hi, Im 25 and have been in a relationship for 5 years with my SO,to try and make some history short, I has just got out of a relationship when we met so i didn't want to start one especially with him (he wasn't the boyfriend type) but my best friend and his best friend were dating and we all had the same mutual friend, eventually one thing turned into another.


Surprisingly he wasn't as bad as i though and ppl were actually surprised at how he took to me, he had never been this caring with a girl. Well even though he wasn't bad I still wouldn't rate him as a "good BF", i just thought he was in comparison to my other"horrible" relationships.


He wasn't really the responsible type, never took responsibility for his actions or always tried to "justify" them which always created arguments. A year and a half into the pregnancy i got pregnant, we faught alot mainly money issues

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 12:52pm

Welcome to the board alyviasmommy,


I don't think you can save this relationship without going to counseling.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 4:25pm

Welcome to the board alyviasmommy,


He needs to grow up and realize that he has a family to take care of and that this type of behavior isn't right. Honestly, he is never going to learn that as long as you allow it to continue. I think you should break up with him and kick him out. Have his cell phone disconnected since it is in his name. He needs to learn to be a man.



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Edited 11/2/2007 4:29 pm ET by cl-ctara19811
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Registered: 08-26-2005
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 4:53pm
Part of my problem is that All the bills are in my name including his cell(its a couples plan), he just pays whenever he wants and not when he's supposed to so were 2 months behind, we're also on a contract so i cannot afford the penalty either. Also the lease is

 

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 5:05pm
I can understand why you feel trapped. I am not sure what type of welfare or government assistance there is in Canada, but could you get some type of rent assistance so you can move out on your own. Then you could file for child support against him too.

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