Feelings for more than one man

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Registered: 08-02-2004
Feelings for more than one man
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 6:33pm
I have a problem. I have a wonderful husband whom I love dearly. But our sex life is a little on the slow side. but when its on it is awesome. My problem is this I work with all men and I am very attracted to one of them. And the attraction is felt back. I am not sure what to do? I have never had sex with anyone else. But I seem to be attracted to men more now. ANd I dont know what to do about it. I don't wan to leave my husband I love him.. please help
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 7:03pm
jmkm32...

Two ideas from Pianoguy:

1. Locate a copy of your marriage vows...and reread the passage about "forsaking all others!" That WAS part of the original deal, wasn't it?

2. Enroll in an exercise class after work....perhaps all that sweating will release a few of those 'unused hormones' that are present inside your body?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 8:03pm
pianoguy gave you a good answer. Also, try channelling all that sexual energy toward your husband. I guarantee you he will appreciate it and your MARITAL sex life will improve.

I see from your profile that you have two children. Please, for their sake, don't even consider infidelity. Don't risk destroying their family.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 3:50pm
Isn't flattery nice? Well some people think so..... you are missing something in your marriage and someone else has stepped up to the plate with attention and flattery and is making you doubt yourself, your marriage, etc. Not a good place to be. You have to find a way of letting your husband know what you need and find a way to work on this area of your marriage.

Reading material:

Gentlemen Start Her Engine And Keep It Running: 350 Easy Ways to Forever Supercharge Your Lady's Heart, Steven Andrew Guerrero

Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw

A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman

His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr

Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, John Gray


Carrie