fiance broke up with me today

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Registered: 04-17-2003
fiance broke up with me today
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Sat, 02-07-2004 - 10:30pm
My fiance broke up with me.He said he'll call me after he has time to think.We have been together over 3 years. I was 17, and inexperienced/naive with relationships.We jumped right into things and ended up sleeping together the first night.At that time, I also had a "friend with benefits" and had plans to see him a few days later. At the time I met my fiance,I liked him very much but I did not have much respect for myself and felt as though he may have been just another guy that wanted to sleep with me.I did not break my plans with my other friend and slept with him too.Then things with my fiance suddenly progressed and the next time we saw eachother(a few days later)he convinced me to be his girlfriend and ended up telling me he loved me almost right away.I said it back but was not sure I meant it. I never slept with anyone else again.I figured it was best not to hurt my fiance by telling him about the other guy since we were not technically together yet.But as time progressed the subject came up and I continuously lied about it.Then last year, he found out I slept with the other guy and that I did not feel real love for him until about 3 months into the relationship.I lost his trust, and I fully admit to everything that happened.I also go to college an hour away, and he told me he heard rumors before that I have cheated on him, which is completely untrue.I love him with all my heart but I don't know how to help him move on if he comes back.Advice would be appreciated,thanks.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 02-08-2004 - 2:04am

personally - it sounds like