Fiance is a Perv & it's driving me nuts!

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Fiance is a Perv & it's driving me nuts!
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Fri, 03-12-2004 - 3:15pm
Posted this the other day....have some stuff to add to it.

I caught my fiancee on the phone with one of his ex-girlfriends jerking off. I reamed him about it and he said that she (the ex) didn't know what he was doing, that they were not talking about anything sexual. He said that jerking off like that is just a habbit. A few days later I caught him on the internet asking for a woman's phone number so they could have phone sex. I know he loves me but I really don't like the fact that he is calling his ex or strange women to have phone sex with them. I've begged him not to do this, not to call other women. He said that the only reason he calls them is it's easier to talk to them on the phone and jerk off than it is to jerk off and type on the computer. Apparently he is on his webcam messing around with other women all the time. He says it's not cheating but I feel like it is. I'm afraid to go to sleep before him because I'm afraid I'll wake up and he will be doing it again. I hate going to work on his days off for the same reason. I am thinking about leaving him (again, left once before because of this but came back when he promised not to do it anymore), but I don't have any money nor do I have anywhere to go at this time. Please help me, am I overreacting or underreacting? I think I should leave, but I'm just not sure.

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 9:09pm
Well i didn't get the job, we're fighting more and more. Found out he posted on one of his porn sites that he's looking for someone to "fill the void in his sex life" That hurt so bad, because even though everything else between us has gone to crap, that i thougth was still really good. Guess i was wrong there, too. I have another job prospect opening up, maybe i'll get this one. I hope so, it's alot more money than i had hoped for so if i get it i'll be able to do what i want which is get out soon. we had a huge fight this afternoon right before he left for work adn as he was walking out he said that he wants to go to the JP's office on his next day off and get married! I told him no that i wasn't ready to yet, and i'm not, i'm never going to be. i hate lying to him, but i have to take care of me. it's time to put me first i know, time to put my needs ahead of his. i just need some advice, some, i guess, pep talk from ya'll. i am getting so depressed. i have no vehichle because his parents car broke down and he gave them mine since i'm not working, hopefully i'll get it back this weekend. i have been stuck in this house for 4 days and i'm going nuts!

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