Fiance suddenly wants out - feeling miserable!

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Registered: 06-13-2011
Fiance suddenly wants out - feeling miserable!
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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 9:31am

I'm new to posting to the boards, though I have enjoyed reading them for advice from time to time.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 10:51am

I can see how you would be terribly upset because here you have been w/ this guy 5 yrs, you already live together, in effect you are already committed because I assume he's not out there seeing other women, so really what is the big deal?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 11:18am

Please stop begging him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2011
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 11:22am

Thank you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2009
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 11:27am
summernights2 wrote:

I'm new to posting to the boards, though I have enjoyed reading them for advice from time to time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2011
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 11:31am

You are so right!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2011

Over 20 years ago,my guy

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2011

You are right; five years is a long time to decide whether you want to marry a person or not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 06-16-2011 - 11:21am

When you described your friend's situation......I've seen that so many times!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 06-16-2011 - 11:38am

Guess what?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

I'm really sorry. This is terribly painful.

You say in your original post: "five years is a huge chink of my life gone" but that is not true. Even though you obviously have to break up... You didn't "waste" those five years. You were still alive and had other experiences. You had good experiences together and by yourself that you don't have to just forget about and throw away because you're not together anymore.

I'm sorry he turned out to be a coward. It doesn't help for me to say "at least you found out before you married him" but you really do deserve someone who can commit to you after five years.

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