fiancee wants a break--wait 4 him or no?
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fiancee wants a break--wait 4 him or no?
| Sat, 05-22-2004 - 2:40pm |
I now my story seems long but please help me out! I am in need of some advise!
I met my fiancee when we both were young, I was 17. Due to trouble in my house I moved in with him and his family which adored me and I loved them as well. We had our own apartment in the basement and spend two years together. I would have the occasional fight with his mother and even if I was right I would bow my head and apologize every time.
We ended up accumulating some credit card bills which his mother was furious about and blamed me for. That’s when the fighting began between everyone and i felt my relationship with the man of my dreams was headed for the gutter. Due to both of us being stressed about the bills, and me about his mother, and how me and her were losing our friendship,
I became depressed. I was not happy... not with my fiancee but with the whole situation.
After another fight i packed my things and left the next day to my sisters house. Thinking that, this would be the best decision and me and him can start fresh...little did I know. The very next day he passed by my sisters house to say that he needs a little break to grow up and figure out who he is. He made sure i understood that he loves me and doesn’t want to loose me but wants the summer to himself to get his career and mind together. I don’t know what to do? Should I move on and try to get over him...which is impossible...but should i try? Or give him the space he needs and start fresh? Please help out!!!
I met my fiancee when we both were young, I was 17. Due to trouble in my house I moved in with him and his family which adored me and I loved them as well. We had our own apartment in the basement and spend two years together. I would have the occasional fight with his mother and even if I was right I would bow my head and apologize every time.
We ended up accumulating some credit card bills which his mother was furious about and blamed me for. That’s when the fighting began between everyone and i felt my relationship with the man of my dreams was headed for the gutter. Due to both of us being stressed about the bills, and me about his mother, and how me and her were losing our friendship,
I became depressed. I was not happy... not with my fiancee but with the whole situation.
After another fight i packed my things and left the next day to my sisters house. Thinking that, this would be the best decision and me and him can start fresh...little did I know. The very next day he passed by my sisters house to say that he needs a little break to grow up and figure out who he is. He made sure i understood that he loves me and doesn’t want to loose me but wants the summer to himself to get his career and mind together. I don’t know what to do? Should I move on and try to get over him...which is impossible...but should i try? Or give him the space he needs and start fresh? Please help out!!!

I'll let you in on a little secret. I'm 46 years old now, but when I was 20 I was madly in love with a boy. He broke up with me and I was devastated. Like you, I thought it would be impossible to ever get over him or forget him. My mom told me "in two years you will have trouble remembering his name. Trust me." She was right. I literally had to stop and think for a minute to recall his name. The passage of time works that way. We older folks know this from experience. Get on with your life and time will ease the pain.
You say that you moved in with him at 17, how old are you now?
There are a few things you need to consider here with this "break". One, did he ever stick up for you when you faught with his mom? And two, you moved in with him at 17, have you really tested out the dating pool? Sounds like a lot of drama to be diving into when you are very young.
-amy- "CL-fiesty"