Fighting All the Time
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Fighting All the Time
| Fri, 01-02-2004 - 7:12pm |
My boyfriend and I fight all the time...and it can be about the most ridiculous stuff! When we first started dating about 2 1/2 years ago, we never fought (of course), but now it is almost an everyday occurance. I think it is mostly my fault, because it seems like I am constantly mad at him about something he has done. I will get mad at him for wanting to go out with his friends and not wanting me to come along, or wanting to do things without me, or not paying enough attention to me. Once I start writing this down I can see how needy and pitiful I really sound. I know I overreact sometimes, but I still feel like I have no control over these emotions and feelings of anger. I just feel like if he is not giving me his full attention, then he does not love me as much as I do him. I do have issues with trust considering my previous boyfriend cheated on me. I just don't know how to control these feelings and have a healthy relationship. I love him with all my heart and believe that he is the one and I know that he feels the same, but these problems are really putting a strain on our relationship.

This is exactly what happened to me and my boyfriend two and a half years into our relationship. I started picking fights with him-he with me. He would withdraw even more I was convinced HE didnt love me as much as I loved him. I was right 8 months later he finally broke up with me-even though he had convinced me not to break up with him. I know you might not be ready to hear this now but sometimes its better to let him go. It was so painful for me but when he broke up with me I forced myself to stop taking his calls-oh yes he still called constantly even after being broken up. A few months after that I met my husband and our relationship is much healthier. When you are with the wrong person you subconciously know it-even if you dont conciously admit it. Take my advice-the earlier you let him go the more time you have to find the truly right one.