Financially Dependent Boyfriend

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Financially Dependent Boyfriend
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 10:02pm

I have finally confirmed that my live-in boyfriend is a financial dependent.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 10:34pm
It sounds as though if you cannot afford the place you bought, rather than expecting your boyfriend to contribute to a mortgage on a house that is not his, you should be looking for a place you can afford.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 12:17am

>>Additionally, Boyfriend feels he’s a renter and shouldn’t have to pay any more than a roommate would pay.<<


And he'd be quite right to have this attitude.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2008
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 3:23am

I like your point of view and your advice, except for the fact that this is not the best time to be selling real property.


I've learned

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:46am

Boot this bum to the curb.


He is not a boyfriend.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 1:57pm

Welcome to the board postergal,


Sorry to hear about your brother.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2008
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 5:34pm

Interesting point of view. In other words, I should pay all the bills and ignore that fact that the man I love is a freeloader?


For how long much longer should I do this?


Do you live rent free where you live?


Thank you for taking your time to express your thoughts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 6:11pm

I think that you should a) not have a freeloader living with you in the first place and b) avoid being a landlord to your boyfriends.

"Do you live rent free where you live?"
I'm not sure if this is supposed to be sarcastic or not, but in the case that it's not, no.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 7:48pm

"Boyfriend feels he’s a renter and shouldn’t have to pay any more than a roommate would pay."


I am perplexed.

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 12:47am

Thank you for responding. I appreciate your feedback. I didn’t mean for my question to you, "Do you live rent free where you live?" to be at all sarcastic. I asked this to make a point. I believe that most adults contribute, like you, an equitable amount toward living expenses.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 1:30am

If he won't pay what he agreed to, and you're not willing to kick him out and get someone in there who is willing to pay you a reasonable amount every month, what possible other solution is there other than for you to suck it up and support him?

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