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| Thu, 01-29-2004 - 2:49pm |
In the spring of 2003 I told myself that if he hadn't gotten a job by the end of the summer I'd leave. Sure enough, that's what happened. Surprisingly I was able to buy a house; that was weird because we couldn't get an apartment together. I moved out in October.
I can't remember when the last time was we had sex. Somewhere along the line, probably from the lack of it, I've lost interest in sex. I have no desire to have sex with anyone or anything associated with sex.
Chatting online I get several messages saying I should start dating. I'm not sure if I'm ready for that yet. I don't feel anything for my DH unless it's buried deep inside. When we're together all we talk about are events and our DS. We never talk about us. because of this, I don't know if there's anything to try and fix or restore our marriage.
Any ideas?

Is it your husband (you posted 'DS') who lost his job and he or all of you live with his mom?
'Chatting online I get several messages saying I should start dating.'
From who?
The messages are from people I chat with on Yahoo! messenger.
Edited 2/2/2004 9:18:55 PM ET by dolfin0018
if i understand you correctly - you are living separately from your DH and DS for about 6 months. (you see your DS on weekends). you meet with your DH but do not discuss the marriage. so - you are legally married but not really *married*
you don't mention this so i will ask - have you gone to any kind of therapy? individual or couple's ? I don't know exactly WHAT caused you to move out (other than the fact that he wouldn't/couldn't/didn't get a job) - and i don't know what caused the problems in the marriage. but - if you are asking - then i would suggest you go to therapy for a while with your DH to see if you can work on these issues. even if you eventually decide to divorce, at least the *hot topics* will have been discussed and you two can focus on being better parents together.
I also suggest that you DO NOT date until you finished with your marriage. its just not healthy. good luck
The fact that he wasn't interested in counseling earlier in your marriage doesn't mean he wouldn't be willing to try it now.
James
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