Finding it so hard to get over him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Finding it so hard to get over him.
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Sun, 10-14-2007 - 10:25am

Hey there,

I have only been with my ex for 8 months, it was my longest relationship so far so it had a huge impact on me.

We broke up 3 years before, our r/s lasted only 1 month then. The break up was his fault, he admitted to it.

Then last november I took him back cos we both missed each other and it was great for a while.

There were problems though, he's not a very stable person, stressed at work and home. And the fact that I always complain that he's not spending enough time with me.

He emotionally abused me, and I admit that I did it back out of spite, insulted him and all.

To cut a long story short, we tried to get back together so many times but it's not working and finally he decided that we weren't meant to be and cut it off, and wants to move on.

I feel that it's extremely unfair cos I was the one he hurt most but he has the power to call the shots.

I hate myself for feeling weak, and although I've deleted his number I can't get it out of my memory and always have the temptation to call him and rant/plead with him.

How do I stop? I need to cos he says he really doesn't care anymore and my self esteem is at an all time low.

TIA!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:11am

It's hard to be treated badly and unwanted by someone we once cared very much for and put a lot of effort into a relationship with. I understand why you're feeling this way.

If it helps, try to think of the negative things about him. If you catch yourself thinking about missing him, turn your thoughts to how poorly he treated you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:21am

Hello, thank you for your advice. =)

I just did some searching... and I really think I've got a love addiction problem.

http://love-addiction.com/loveaddiction1.html

It really applies to me and I don't know how to deal with it...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 3:41pm

Hi, I replied to you on the other board. :0)