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Forgotten in social situations
| Tue, 11-20-2007 - 3:17pm |
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and in general, he is very good to me and my family, but he has a tendency to forget about me in a lot of social situations. He will leave me alone all night, talking with his other friends, and he will only come over to me if he knows I'm getting mad.

Thank you for your opinion and advice!
It seems like this is a particular problem he has, and continues to have even after you have talked with him about it. I think you did the right thing the other night by leaving on your own, because he needs to be shown that you will not accept this. Talking to him about it hasn't helped, so maybe you should just tell him, that this is the way things will continue to be until he shows you enough respect to not completely forget about you.
I think it's okay for you to be upset with him over this, but you're not really dealing with it constructively. Storming out and getting huffy doesn't solve problems; if you want him to act differently then you need to calmly and collectedly tell him what you want.
A guy with good social skills doesn't treat his date (especially a steady girlfriend) like that. It would be great for you to make an effort to make friends with his friends and start conversations with people on your own. But if he really doesn't think he's doing anything wrong by ditching you then I really doubt his idea of what a good boyfriend is.
Welcome to the board lisalpharmd,
Sounds like the bartender had it right, 'you were dumped'.