Found a condom

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Found a condom
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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 5:20pm
I have never put a msg here before, but here I go.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 6:01pm

Welcome to the board smilehappygirl,


This part "He said he will tell his friends they can no longer use his house because he does not want me to no trust him." is good.


This part "My bf has in the past put a hotel in his

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Registered: 12-04-2007
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 6:41pm
While your bf may not have cheated, I think his being an accomplice in his friends cheating, as well as letting these people do God only knows what where you two stay, is a big indication of his values. If it was me in this situation I would seriously rethink my relationship as well probably never set foot in that apartment again.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 9:50pm
I think your BF has the same values as his friends or he wouldn't be covering for them.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Thu, 12-06-2007 - 12:34am

The whole scenario is slimy.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 12-06-2007 - 8:05am

He's just so gross, chica. Both in his hygiene and in his ethics.

My Mom had a saying, "Show me your friends so I can see who you are." Meaning, if he didn't at least on some level think it was okay to cheat in a relationship, he wouldn't provide either a place (disgusting) or a means (irresponsible) for his buddies to do so. He's not above betrayal. And it's not just one guy, but several friends of his who do this. Do you really think he'd be the one holdout in a the group who didn't do any of that?

Actions speak volumes about a person's values much more so than any words ever could. Remember that when you think about the fact that he gave keys to his friends so they could cheat on their girlfriends and also very willingly used his credit card so they wouldn't get caught. If that's not the heart of deception, I don't know what is.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 12-06-2007 - 10:17am

I'm sorry, but I have to agree. Your guy is every bit as disgusting as his friends. It's really easy for women to look at our boyfriends and say "oh he's not like that" because he doesn't act that way around us. But rest assured that he's pretty much a slimeball when he's with his boys. He's not saying "oh no gentlemen, I couldn't possibly! What would my wonderful girlfriend think of this?" He's going along with their idiotic behavior.

It's great that he's going to change for you but the thing is, how will you know?

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Thu, 12-06-2007 - 3:19pm

hi,


i don't want to be the bearer of bad news but his story sounds fishy... my child's father told me a story about a pair of women earrings at his house; he tried to tell me that they were mines and that i left them there the last time i was at his house.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 12-06-2007 - 4:57pm

and how do you know if one of his friends won't let him use HIS credit card and HIS apartment for your boyfriend when the time comes...


RUN

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Registered: 08-21-2005
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 9:16am

I'm curious. Is it possible that he is 'blaming' his friends for HIS actions? Its an easy cop out to say he used the credit card for his 'friend' and that the condom was from his 'friend' who used the apartment. Is it possible that he is saying this to cover his own behind?

Sorry, just playing devil's advocate here.