Found out what his problem is...
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|Mon, 06-02-2003 - 8:39am|
He has Tourette's Syndrome. Apparently, it was diagnosed when he was a child. He's still got it, but he's in total denial - which I guess is a symptom. He won't do anything to help himself, because he's afraid of letting someone/something control him (such as doctors/medications). As a child, he was put in an institution for his out of control rage - his family believes that something 'bad' (some form of abuse) may have happened to him there because of his absolute fear of getting help.
Because of his imbalance, his level for tolerating alcohol is VERY low - which is apparent from the way in which he acted that night the stuff hit the fan...and again on this past Friday night - we had a great night...went out to dinner, rented movies and got some beer...he drank 12+ beers then turned into a monster. Nothing violent - just ranting and raving about anything and everything. I got sick of it, started to leave. He begged me not to go...Another symptom, according to his sister, is a fear of commmitment AND a fear of being alone.
The first night, which was May 21, I told him I thought he had a chemical imbalance - just from the way he was acting. No one had told me ANYTHING about his Tourette's before this, so I had NO WAY of knowing that he really DID have one! This past Friday, he jumped my case - kept demanding I tell him who told me that because there is NO WAY I could have thought of it on my own. He badgered me for 2 hours - I kept telling him the same thing - that I've seen 'chemical imbalances' in other people and thought his actions mirrored them...He swore up and down that 'someone' had been talking about him - again, the paranoia (another symptom).
Now that I know he's got a 'chemical imbalance' - I feel like I owe it to him to help him get the help he needs. His sister and mom are working w/ me on this. We are on the lease for our apartment for one more month. I figure I will give him this month to determine what he's going to do - if he does nothing, then I will move out. At this point, he is still planning on moving out, but has no idea when (lack of income from no job, no job because he doesn't want to be controlled, VICIOUS CYCLE)...I figure 1 more month is long enough for me to try and help him - if he won't help himself, I guess all I can do is say that I love him, I care for him, but I cannot put myself through all of this.
Have any of you dealt with anything like this?