friend problems

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Registered: 09-26-2004
friend problems
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 1:58pm
A really good friend of mine, Chris, wants nothing to do with me anymore because he said that i'm a liar. The only things that i lied about though were things that were suppose to protect his feelings and the feelings of others, and they weren't even big lies and i only lied like 2 or 3 times. Now he's mad and won't talk to me at all and said that our friendship is over. Then there were these 2 other girls, Melissa and Kristen, who don't like me who said that i told them the reason i was hanging out with my other friend, Kayla, was so i could be around her brother, Matt who i have a big crush on, but i did not tell them that and no one believes me. I will admit that i did say something similar to Chris when i first met Kayla because I really didn't like her in the beginning, but that was a month ago and once i got to meet her that all changed and i think she's a great friend and i even told Chris that. Chris said he doesn't care and Kayla believes Melissa and Kristen who said that i still think that and that i'm using Kayla. No one will listen to what i have to say and i tried talking to them many times, but it won't work, everyone thinks i'm a two-faced liar. Matt won't even talk to me even though i don't think he's mad because Kayla won't talk to me and neither will Chris who is his best friend. Everyone in my neighborhood that i was really good friends with hates me and I don't know what to do. I hate livng here now and just want to leave and move in with my dad to get away, is there anything i can do to get Chris, Kayla, and Matt to be my friends again?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-26-2004 - 7:18pm
jessica1390...

Maybe if you STOPPED LYING about EVERYTHING....you could win some of these people back?

Once you screw up with one or two people, the word usually gets out that you behave this way with EVERYBODY! It's a lousy reputation to have, isn't it?

If people got to see "a kinder, gentler, Jessica" who doesn't act like she's out to screw them over....she'll have more friends (and boyfriends) than she'll know what to do with.

Lose the attitude and watch for the changes. BUT...just don't expect everything to happen overnight...because IT WON'T!

Good luck in your transformation...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 5:02pm
Jessica,

I know you want to be in their circle of friends, however, you can't make them do anything. Also, you can't run away from the problem. Hold your head high, make new friends and give them some time to 'get over it'. If they don't, then that's the way it is and you have to figure how why you want and need their approval so badly. My best to you.


Carrie