Friend that Won't go Away
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Friend that Won't go Away
| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:57pm |
I am about to get married to my long term boyfriend in one month. we live together and he has this friend who always comes over to our house and stays for long hours into the night. My boyfriend can't seem to turn him away as much as I put my foot down. I am finally in my most stressful state of mind with all the wedding planning, etc. so the more I act stressed out, it gives him a reason to keep his friend around. His friend doees not even get a clue that we are having problems because of him and keeps coming around. I don't know what to do. Does anyone else seem to have a significant others' friend like this? I am at a loss and am totally sick to my stomach because of this and my fiance does not understand and uses my frustration against me. any one have any ideas.

And he is not going to get a clue if you don't give him one. Don't expect him to read your mind especially when your boyfriend is probably asking him to come over. Your boyfriend needs to talk to him about what is happening.
Is this what your married life is going to be like too?
I would have a discussion with your fiance in which you calmly state the problem and ask for his help in reaching a compromise that works for both of you. Let him know that you don't mind his friend being there SOME of the time, but that the two of you need to set some limits.
It makes me a little nervous for you that you can't resolve a relatively small issue like this...have the two of you gone to premarital counseling?
Sheri