friends disaprove

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Registered: 10-31-2008
friends disaprove
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 4:26am

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 2 years. At the end of last year we split in a quite messy way - he finished by text, then I found out by a reliable 3rd part that he had had some more than flirty activities with an ex girlfriend - who is married.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 10:22am

You are quite right. If you are not accepted and included by his friends, it's up to him to put an end to that rejection. And if they will not accept you, he should not spend time with them. It's about priorities. Are you his priority here? How can he be with others who reject someone he holds dear? On the other hand, is it possible that these friends are close to his ex girlfriend? If so, that is all the more reason that he should take a stand and let them know he is fully with you. If he does not or is not willing to do so, he is not truly protecting and standing up for you, and it is odd that he would be comfortable beign with others who leave you out. This behavior does not bode well for the relationship in general in the long run. Sooner or later he's going to have to decide where you stand in his life and realize that, as a couple, the two of you have to be treated equally.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 10-26-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 2:10pm

That can be a very difficult situation to be in for the both of you.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 6:41pm

He needs to stand up for you to his friends. If he does not, then you can bet he'll back away from that again in the future when possibly your life depends on that courage and bravery and LOYALTY.