Friendship vs. relationship
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| Wed, 03-03-2004 - 8:22pm |
I guess what I am venting about is that is so weird having such a great friend of the opposite sex. I really do have feelings for him but know that there must be a reason why he can't stay in a marriage. His track record isn't very good and it would be stupid to think that he would be good for me, right? He is a terrific friend and has helped me through 3 major life problems in the past 8 months.
Next issue. I have another male friend (Kurt) who lives across country. We used to work together 10 years ago, then he moved with his wife. He got divorced 4 years ago. I saw him for 2 weekends in the past 4 months and it was so romantic. He says he wants to move back to my state in the next few months. He hasn't said what his feelings are for me, but I really like him, too. We really get along well. I told him that he could stay at my house temporailly if he needs a place to stay when he get's here.
Aaron does know that I talk to Kurt sometimes. I have told him.He doesn't know that we spent the weekend together a few weeks ago. That was tough, getting around the 4 times a day calls! I just don't know which way I should go with my heart. Both men treat me nice but in different ways. What do I do? I do know the old saying "Once a cheater..always a cheater". UGH. What would you do?

well, don't shoot me but you did ask "What would you do" lol...
here is what *I* would do:
first - get divorced. i know you filed, and i know you will get divorced, but you are still legally/morally married. so get divorced FIRST before you start getting serious about other men.
second - nobody says that you have to get into a serious committed relationship right now. you can date, you can meet people, you can sleep with guys - as long as everyone knows whats what. you can enjoy yourself.
third - frankly, this guy Aaron doesn't really sound like a guy I would want to get seriously involved with.
but that's me! I don't know what is best for YOU!
::For a very short time, about 6 months ago, we let the friendship get closer, but he said he didn't want to be in a relationship.
BELIEVE HIM when he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship.
Carrie