Friendships gone bad!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2004
Friendships gone bad!
1
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 1:58pm
I have a problem that I would like to get over ASAP! I had a friend for 6 years now who has always been too involved in my life. She was the type of friend who thought you could only have one friend and that I should be her "best" friend only! She has a highschool mentality when it comes to friendships. Although she has a big heart, she gets too involved in every move I make, and if I neglect to tell about anything at all...she says that I was lying to her?!? I had made a few mistakes in my past and she, being my friend in all, knew about them. What friend doesn't know about your faults?? But this ex-friend of mine tries to make me feel threatened by what she knows. The mistakes I made had to do with my boyfriend and I. My ex-friend felt she was in the middle because her and her husband had become friends with my boyfriend also. The thing is I'm the reason they even met, I was friends with her way before I met my boyfriend! My boyfriend never felt that close to them in the first place, he simply socialized with them. The only reason she was in the middle at all was because she put herself there, like always. To make a long story short, it all came out in the end and my boyfriend and I are still together and love eachother very much. My ex-friend still tries to involve her self by telling my boyfriend that she is a threat to me and that she knows alot of things about me that he doesn't. She hasn't offered any information to him that he doesn't already know, but it feels so terrible that it has to come to this childish name calling drama! she has done this type of thing in the past and I forgave her, but now I'm done! My boyfriend is the greatest guy and he doesn't get involved in what she says and he does't care what she may or may not know. There are some things that I don't want my boyfriend to know about, but I don't want to feel threatened or remain her friend because of that. She has lost friends in the past beause of her ways, but my concern is about me and what I should do? I want her outta my life and my boyfriends life for good, but I don't see it being that easy. She seems so vicious, like someone I never knew before. If you have any advice please respond! Thanks so much.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 5:17pm
Try posting on the Toxic Relationship board, because that is what this is.

Sorry you have to go through this.

If you want some strange ideas, email me at onetwinflame@hotmail.com


Carrie