Frustrated

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Frustrated
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Thu, 07-24-2008 - 6:40pm

Hi everyone.


I'm looking for some advice on my marriage and am hoping I can find some words of wisdom here.


My husband and I have been married for

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Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: my3girlsandme
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 2:38am
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: my3girlsandme
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 1:31pm

Welcome to the board my3girlsandme,


Writing a letter is a good idea, but I wouldn't recommend letting him read your post as it doesn't focus enough on what you love and miss about him.


Reading material to consider:


The Care and Proper Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger


Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw


Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman


A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman


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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: my3girlsandme
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 3:05pm

Welcome to the board my3girlsandme,


Could you find someone to watch the kids for you and then you could talk to your husband about how you and feelings can try to come up with a solution. Maybe you could even go out to eat together just the two of you or something before the talk.


Does he realize that he snaps at you so much?

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Registered: 07-24-2008
In reply to: my3girlsandme
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 7:11pm

I've thought of writing a letter, and I've done so in the past for different issues (I tend to write and write when I'm frustrated or upset) but sometimes it never gets brought up or talked about after the fact. But atleast then he knows how I feel.


And I'm sure that he does know that he snaps at me too much. One time when we were all in a good mood I told him how lucky I felt to have him (sometimes he goes above and beyond what other husbands normally do) and he told me that he doesn't feel that he always is a good husband and wishes he was more patient. And that was so special to me to hear him say that. But