frustrated about an ex-boyfriend
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| Sun, 08-22-2004 - 1:52pm |
So I live on the Westcoast and my ex-boyfriend lives on the Eastcoast. We had a long distance relationship for over a year, but he couldn't handle the distance in our relationship so we ended it. We didn't talk for 3 months, but after those 3 months he came to visit his friends in the West and wanted to see me. He emailed me and said that he wanted to see me, and that he wanted something intimate to happen between us. We both still had feelings for each other, although he had a new girlfriend of 3 months. So, we went for dinner and a movie (with friends) and ended up just talking early into the next day...nothing intimate happened. Like I said, I knew he had a girlfriend, but I was also dating my new boyfriend of 2 months. So...my ex left to go back home and that was that. Time went on and me and my ex thought that we could be friends, but the fact that we both were both dating brought tension into our so-called "friendship", which resulted in us fighting. He sent me an email saying how much I've changed...and how he never wants to speak to me again. Basically, he created a false representation of my character to enable him to get over me easily. Okay...fine! I'd had it, who did this guy think he was? After the email, we didn't talk for another 3 months. During that time, I'd broken up with my boyfriend, but my ex was still with his girlfriend. In August, he came back to the West again and visited me at work. It was strange...we started talking...and then decided to go for dinner and movie with friends. Everything was fine, a little uncomfortable, but things were fine. He told me how in love he was with his new girlfriend and how everything was great and how he sees a potential marriage between her. Great! But, here's the kicker! The night before he had to go back home, he cheated on her with me. We didn't talk about what had happened until he was back at home. He emailed me saying how much he couldn't stop thinking about me blah blah blah. He cheated on her, but he still says he's in love with her. He says that he's never going to tell her what happened. So basically his relationship is a lie. Does he really love her? Just 3 days ago he said that he was still in love with me and that he had lied to me earlier, by saying that he wasn't in love wiht me, to help me move on. Today, I asked him, "If you had to choose, right now, once and for all, between me and her, who would you choose?" He said that my question wasn't realistic and that right now he would choose her because she lives in the East, she's there, I'm not, he's grown closer with her. But he couldn't answer the "once and for all" aspect of my question because he couldn't. What's a girl to do? Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time?

No-basically he is a liar. He is a confused, manipulating, flip-flopping cheat. Stay away from him or you are doomed to be with a man whom you do not trust and for good reason.
Also, get yoru priorities straight and realize that you helped a man cheat on his girlfriend. Why would you do that to another woman?