Frustrated with husband

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Frustrated with husband
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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 10:16pm
I am having problems with my husband and his attitude lately. He is very unpleasant to be around and I am finding myself trying anything possible to stay away from him. He is very stressed with work and takes it out on me. He has turned into misery and everything I say to him he makes an argument. I am upset he works almost 7 days a week and over 12 hours a day. I told him that I was trying to adjust and he yells that I should be over it by now, I need to get over it and it doesn't take years. He's only done this once before not a million times! I ask for some time alone together and he blows up saying he has given up his life outside of me and he spends enough time with me-but not alone which he doesn't see.(He considers the time we sleep "time alone" too) He then tells me that it is I who is refusing to spend time with him which made me angry. He makes me sound like a selfish person, always manipulating me. Then he's mad about dinner. I wait so we can eat a hot meal, fresh together and he blows up because he has to wait 12 minutes for pasta. That's when he tells me he does not want to have to talk to me and wait a half and hour for dinner, he wants it already done. He's very cold when he first comes home then when he warms up he decides to go to bed. I don't know what to do anymore since I can't being around him anymore and sadly I am glad when he's gone. I'm afraid if I tell him how I feel he will turn it around to make me the bad guy. What can I do I'm so confused? Thanks.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Sat, 01-31-2004 - 10:55am
Is there an end in site regarding his schedule?

Is there ever a time when he calms down when you can approach him to have a conversation about your feelings and the marriage? Maybe it is time to see a marriage counselor to help you communicate. If he refuses, then that says a lot about what he is willing to do to make things better and you might want to think about going on your own.

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Sat, 01-31-2004 - 2:41pm
He's usually calm when he has a day off. He's been alot nicer today so it is probably a good time to talk.