I agree with what kiera already said to you. This is a tough situation, in any case trying to come between a man and his family will only make you into the villain, and it is not possible for you to change their family dynamic. Consider that the way someone's family interacts with one another is the basis for the way they treat people for the rest of their lives, and it will greatly affect the way they intend to raise their own kids.
It is in your best interest to express your concerns and feelings in such a way that does not attack his family, even though any criticism of his parents will likely elicit a defensive response from him. But you can tell him that you're concerned about this kind of financial arrangement and talk about your discomfort with being interrupted so often. While it is unlikely that he will respond really well and say "yeah you're right I'm going to try to get them to stop calling", and he will probably defend his home life and relationship with his parents, I do hope he hears what you have to say with an open mind. It's worth a try.
I agree that it is wise to look very closely at their relationship before you get too serious with him. A marriage to someone who lives under his parents' thumb will put you there as well.
Well, let's give your boyfriend credit for having a good heart and being responsible and being there for his family.
I agree with what kiera already said to you. This is a tough situation, in any case trying to come between a man and his family will only make you into the villain, and it is not possible for you to change their family dynamic. Consider that the way someone's family interacts with one another is the basis for the way they treat people for the rest of their lives, and it will greatly affect the way they intend to raise their own kids.
It is in your best interest to express your concerns and feelings in such a way that does not attack his family, even though any criticism of his parents will likely elicit a defensive response from him. But you can tell him that you're concerned about this kind of financial arrangement and talk about your discomfort with being interrupted so often. While it is unlikely that he will respond really well and say "yeah you're right I'm going to try to get them to stop calling", and he will probably defend his home life and relationship with his parents, I do hope he hears what you have to say with an open mind. It's worth a try.
I agree that it is wise to look very closely at their relationship before you get too serious with him. A marriage to someone who lives under his parents' thumb will put you there as well.
Hi ca1986,
You've already been given some good advice. I just wanted to welcome you to the board.