Future vs. Present - Advice Please
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Future vs. Present - Advice Please
| Mon, 12-31-2007 - 10:24pm |
Hi everybody, I've used ivillage's message boards in the past and received wonderful advice - so I've decided to come back with my latest dilemma.

Having grandiose life plans for getting engaged while in your 2nd year of college will never work. As you've already been told, plans change drastically. I had planned on being engaged to my college boyfriend by the time we graduated, and now I'm with someone else living in another state with a career I didn't really plan for while in my sophomore year.
Take things as they come, put your career plans first and don't tie yourself down to a person or idea. If you make individual plans for engagement then I can assure you that you will be disappointed. You've taken some great strides to be more independent, and I think you should start living your own lessons. If your relationship is meant to last then it will last regardless of whether or not you get engaged by the time YOU want. Good luck.
Welcome to the board strongbeautiful,
I think worrying about this right now is only going to put undo strain on the relationship. Focus on your relationship right now and put the worries out of your mind.
I think when you are about a year or so away from graduating would be a good time to start thinking about this and discussing it with him.
Best of luck to you.
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