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getting over feeling insecure
| Tue, 04-13-2004 - 9:38pm |
OK.. I need some advise.....
My boyfriend proposed in feb. I love this man with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with him. The problem is a few months ago he lied to me about talking to this girl that I did not like at ALL (hes a police office and she kept calling him while he was bored and on duty). Well I talked to her and found out she was calling him and that he told her we were getting married and he was happy. The problem is I can't get over the feeling that hes cheating on me!! I've told him this and told him I don't think we should get married unless I completely trust him. He says he'll do anything to prove that hes faithfull. I've even road around w/ him while he was on duty to see what he does all night.(she hasn't called since I confronted her about calling him).. I just feel so insecure about him lieing to me about talking to her before. I don't think that hes cheating but still have this "what if" in my mind. I don't ever want to get divorced and if I was to find out he cheated thats exactly what would happen. So my question is does anyone have any advise on how to get over being so insecure? or what he can do to make me not so insecure? any help would be wonderful thanks
My boyfriend proposed in feb. I love this man with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with him. The problem is a few months ago he lied to me about talking to this girl that I did not like at ALL (hes a police office and she kept calling him while he was bored and on duty). Well I talked to her and found out she was calling him and that he told her we were getting married and he was happy. The problem is I can't get over the feeling that hes cheating on me!! I've told him this and told him I don't think we should get married unless I completely trust him. He says he'll do anything to prove that hes faithfull. I've even road around w/ him while he was on duty to see what he does all night.(she hasn't called since I confronted her about calling him).. I just feel so insecure about him lieing to me about talking to her before. I don't think that hes cheating but still have this "what if" in my mind. I don't ever want to get divorced and if I was to find out he cheated thats exactly what would happen. So my question is does anyone have any advise on how to get over being so insecure? or what he can do to make me not so insecure? any help would be wonderful thanks

Hopefully someone will have some advice for you. Try posting on the Cop Wives Support board.
Carrie
i think thinking about these questions can help insecurity, if you can find where it's coming from. if it's something your bf has done, then you know you have to work with that, find some way to repair that. if it's something someone before him has done, or just your own fears, then you can start there to resolve things you are scared about in yourself.
good luck!
actually hes a police officer and he never lied or cheated prior to this.. a few years a go I dated a officer that cheated on me several times before I found out...
I think that has alot to do with my insecurity...
Thank you so much for your words of advise!!