getting scared
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| Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:43pm |
I've been with my BF almost 9months now. I am 28, he is 25. I've come from much heartache not too long ago (right before current bf) and still hold some insecurities with me (trying to work on it).
ANyway, our relationship has been great- he makes me so happy, loves me, does what he can for me etc. He has told me I am the best relationship he has had and the most healthy too. (The age thing worries me from time to time because I have been in long relationships before & he not so much). He said I am the most serious gf he's had as well and has never spent so much time with anyone. He even told me he could see marrying me someday. About everyy 8 weeks or so- he needs his "space". I respect that, it's usually after spending almost a week straight together. He gets a little distant, but always calls a few times a day & tells me he loves me. THis happened last week for 3days then we got together & everything was great again. I know this is a normal male act- and a healthy one, so I try to be understanding about it (& I sometimes need my space to do my thing as well). After last week's time, when we got together he even said "One of the reasons that I love you & our relationship so much is that when I just need to do my thing (play games, go to gym, watch tv) you let me and never nag me."
Ok- so we spent a wonderful weekend together & got even closer. Now, he is away for work for almost 2 weeks for training (got a new job). It was hard leaving each other at the airport. It's only been 4days now & I am feeling a little neglected. I know he is superbusy and calls maybe twice a day just for a few minutes. I am used to him calling me like 4x a day & texting me too. So, I miss him. Today, I didn't hear from him & finally at 2pm I texted him "hey stranger" and he texted back- he was in his training class. He asked how I was doing & if everything was ok. I wrote back "Yes, just haven't heard a peep from you all day". He apologized saying it's been crazy busy & he had this big presentation to do this morning etc. I just wrote back "Ok, I will let you go then". He called me like 15min later when he was on a 10min break and said "Please don't leave messages like that, you are making me feel really guilty. I've been so busy- it's been a crazy day." I said OK and he said he would call me later... he hasn't still, but usually calls me at like 10pm anyway (it's 8:30pm now).
I also started a new job this week (which he surprised me with roses & champagne when I found out I got it) and have been having some friend issues. I guess I feel I need him a little to listen to me right now. I just feel like he's so busy he doesn't have time. I sometimes feel like his life overshadows mine. I know he's busy training & all, but I have alot going on too..... and I don't want to bring this up on the phone & get into an agruement or something because he's stressed out & the distance right now.
Am I overreacting?? Am I being needy??

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