Gf of 3 yrs

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Registered: 11-01-2013
Gf of 3 yrs
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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 7:35pm

Gf of 3 yrs asked to move in with her, i've broken up and gotten back with her twice, and again

i have lost interest in her again. What do i do? do i have personal issues that are dark and sad?

I just dread on coming over to see her, im not interested in doing things with her no more. But

i do care how she feels if i should say no i wanna break up instead since i dont love you anymore?

any advice appreciated. thx

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Registered: 11-04-2012
In reply to: raphaa
Fri, 11-01-2013 - 9:08pm
It's kinder to let her go so she can find someone who really wants to be with her.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: raphaa
Fri, 11-01-2013 - 9:54pm

I definitely don't think you should move in with someone who  you don't even want to see.  I think it's kind of harsh to say that you don't love her.  I think you should tell her that you have issues that prevent you from being in a relationship with someone--which is true.  Then I think you should work on your issues so you aren't dark & sad all the time.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
In reply to: raphaa
Sat, 11-02-2013 - 1:00am

If you don't love her, then you don't want to be with her!  Of course she will be hurt for the moment, and probably for a few months, but it is more cruel to stay with her when you don't love her anymore.  Relationships break up, marriages end in divorce, and no one is happy......but everyone eventually realizes it was for the best, and they move on.  She will move on.......and be better off without you......since you don't love her, she's wasting her time with you.  Honesty is the best policy!

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Registered: 11-02-2013
In reply to: raphaa
Sat, 11-02-2013 - 10:01am

Be straight forward. Don't beat around the bush any longer. If you have no interest in being sexual with her anymore. Let her know that, and that you would just like to be good friends.  Just tell her the truth.  If you wait its called leading her on, and later she might hate you for it, because eventually you'll just throw your hands up and just leave her, with or without telling her.

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Registered: 11-23-2013
In reply to: raphaa
Sat, 11-23-2013 - 7:48am

If you dont love her or you have no any interest in her then let her go and let her to find someone who have interest in her and love her.  You can also find your desirable persone so dont take it serious.