Ghosts from the past
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| Tue, 03-23-2004 - 9:59am |
Recently my gf has been sharing things with me that I frankly don't believe I need to know. She believes it's important to share past experiences to get to know each other better. I think this can be beneficial in most things, but there are some things I cannot see the benefit in knowing. For example, last Saturday we went dancing, and she introduced me to this guy she'd been talking to. As we were leaving, I heard him say "You should tell him." Last night, she tells me she'd slept with him once. Now, I firmly believe what's done is done, and I'm not one to judge past behavior, but I told her I really didn't need to know that. She insists I do.
My questions to everyone: while there is value in sharing past experiences, is it really necessary to point out things like every person you've slept with? Do you really need to know the details to make your current relationship successful??

Im with you on this one...although it seems like your girlfreind feels the need to make sure you know that hse was once with other people besides you, and can still if she so choses too. I do beleive in honesty, brutal honesty, in fact..but that doesnt include this. It would be differnt if it somehow involved you and the relationship- right now...but, i dont think thats the case.
Where you go from here is ultimatley up to you...you have told her how you feel, yet, she still feels it necissary to fill you on her past..
best wishes,