Girlfriend for 6 years left me
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| Sun, 05-13-2007 - 9:50pm |
Im going to try and make this short. My girlfriend and I have been together since our senior year of high school. We have been through alot. She has been working 2 jobs and going to school full time for the past 5 years and I have been there to make sure she doesnt self destruct.
I have been in school off and on for the past couple years. I have also switched jobs a couple times.
Well about June of last year she told me she started having feeling for a co-worker. Now let me say that we only got to see each other for an hour or 2 a night becuase of both us in work and school and she got to see this guy for 6 -7 hours every night she worked with him. Well I decided to look past it but we still have not had time to be together because she is always working and going to school.
Well every since then Ive been so paranoid and I ask her all the time if she is talking to this guy and second guess where she said she has been. I understand that was bad. Also a couple years ago I hurt her by playing a game all the time. But I have now sold everyone of my games.
On Monday she left me. She said she needed some time apart and I understand that. I also just started to bust my butt. I joined a gym got an awesome job and am back in school. The guy she has feeling for is back for another week and a half. She said as soon as he leave back to Iraq that we can started hanging out alot. She said not all the time but alot to see if the feelings we used to have would come back. Also I went up to her work and gave her our prom picture (because that was the first night we made love) and told her to remember the times when we didnt have all the work and school and I also gave her the resized promise ring that I gave her for Easter. She actually took both of them gave me a hung and said she loves me. Now she is a tom boy so jewelery isnt her cup of tea and every time we get off the phone she says I love you.
Basically I just want some advice from people that have been in relations and maybe situation like this and tell me that it has a decent chance of working. She measn the world to me and I know she is the one for me. I love her so much.
And also I talked with her sister and she has said int he past year this other guy has already pissed her off multiple times.

Welcome to the board matwithonet,
So what exactly has been going on with these other guy? Why can you start seeing each other more after he leaves?
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Hi matwithonet,
My personal opinion is that she's not ready for a long-term full-time relationship. She likes, make that LOVES the attention she's gotten from the other guy and if she's waiting for him to leave to start hanging out with you, then she's probably not told him that she's still in contact with you.
Sorry you are going through this.
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IMO she is stressed! Before my DH and I got married we were both in college and both worked. He struggled with school so doing homework took up a lot of our "free time"
During that time we almost broke up many times. We fought a lot, were always stressed and never got a day to just have fun. Everything was either work or school. I was pretty sure at the time we would never make it but we struggled through and when it was all over we got back to being the couple we knew we were meant to be. We started to have fun again as a couple.
The high stress was gone and now we are married and happy. I would try talking to her and see if she wants to work things out. Maybe try and plan time for fun stuff, just the two of you.
We never wanted anyone else during the time and maybe she doesn't really either but he for her is something fun and new, which during a stressful time can be tempting.
Good luck!