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| Wed, 05-30-2007 - 9:25am |
The guy i am dating never makes plans or asks to hang out anymore. He still calls but I am the one to offer the invite. Should I give up and has the damage been done that i am too eager?

It's not about giving up, it's about letting go. Stop taking the initiative all the time. You can be pleasant when he calls and chat, but stop inviting him. Step back and take a good look at what's really going on between the two of you. If he accepts your invitations, then he wants to be with you. But still it will make you feel better if you give him space to reach out himself. Many guys need a bit of a chase. Others may need to be invited. But whatever it is that's going on here, clearly you don't feel wanted by him. That's the real issue. So, I'd be pleasant with him and warm, but also give him space to let me know where he stands and what he really wants. You might even have a light conversation about it. Sometimes we imagine all kinds of things and when we talk it out, we learn that it's different than we thought. If you do have a conversation with him, keep it light without criticism, whining or guilt.
All good wishes,
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Welcome to the board sammygrl2007,
Is he accepting the invites? If he wasn't interested, I would think he wouldn't call or accept your invites. Wait until he calls you and then just hint about getting together.
Is he doing anything to make you think he is no longer interested?
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