God, I miss him!
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| Sat, 08-04-2007 - 9:22pm |
I'll try to make my message brief. I have seen my ex for four years then we broke up because he had to move to the states (I'm from the UK) and I couldn't move with him. We kept in touch for two years, emailing each other every single day and talking and chatting online every week.
We've both seen other people during the past two years and told each other about it. He used to tell me that I'm his best friend and indeed we were very close friends! 7 Months ago I was dating somebody and he asked me to move in with him. I told my ex that I was thinking about it and it just drove him crazy, and he was very rude to me. Later on he phoned me and apologized oh, and said he had a guest (female) at home. Things got back to normal after that but he wasn't very supportive when the guy (who asked me to move in with him cheated on me).He was still a very good friend though!
5 Months ago brother in law committed suicide which really depressed me. He was very supportive at first then he seemed like he didn't want to here more about it (or about my depression) He once told me that my life is turning into a long episode if EastEnders (British Soap Opera) which sort of hurt me although he apologized later and said that he didn't mean that in a bad way.
He texted me one day and asked me to be on msn messenger at 7 pm my time. I was online from 7 pm till 11 and he never showed up then he emailed me saying that he couldn't be on msn messenger because he was tired and went to sleep! I replied saying 'whatever…' which seemed to have upset him so I emailed him next morning apologizing!!! (Did I owe him an apology in the first place). He replied saying that was OK and ended his email with 'love xxx' as usual. The thing is, that was the last email I received from him in FIVE months…………..
We talked a couple of times the week after he sent me the email and everything seemed fine though it was him who ended the conversation and said that he had to go but he would talk to me soon…….and he never did!!!!!!
He never even appeared online on msn messenger. I am thinking now Why?????!!!!! What have I done to deserve this treatment? I've ALWAYS been there for him ALWAYS. Why would he do this to me? Is it impossible to be friends with an ex??
Don't get me wrong, I don't need a 'man in my life', there are plenty of them available. I just miss my good friend. We had something, we were very close. If he wants to cut me off, that's fine with me but why wouldn't he just tell me instead of ignoring me and playing games?
3 days ago I saw him online on msn messenger but I never appeared online to him. Since then I've been thinking of him constantly? Shall I phone him? Shall I email him? Shall I wait and see what he's going to do or shall I just ignore him?
Sarah

Welcome to the board Sarah,
Sorry you've been going through this. You can't make him be a better friend. Sounds like with the separation due to distance that he's not as connected as before. Hopefully someone else will have some good advice for you.