goin insane with this one trickyyyy

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Registered: 07-27-2007
goin insane with this one trickyyyy
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:23am
okay so i have a boyfriend, we've been hooking up for 6 months and going out for 4 months, i know not a very long time, but it seems as though im his friend more then his gf sometimes, for example, i used to leave earlier then him to go to work and id give him a hug and kiss and say bye, now its flipped, he gets up before me and the first day didnt even say bye just left, the second day i tell him make sure u say bye, so he comes in the room and hes like lata,and i go just later thats it? and hes like yah ur sleeping .... so i dunno u usually say "lata" to ur friends not ur gf. he invites me ova every single night and i sleep ova every day. he brought up a while ago saying i love u to each other but now he only says bye and lata instead. im a little confused and its getting on my nerves. before he brought up that he has to do all the calling, and i never call him, and that whenever we have sex he always has to be the one initiating it. i dont know what to do i try but he just treats me like a friend i dont know what to do helppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:07pm

Welcome to the board princess6407,


You love and give in the way you want to be loved and given to, but the two of you have different styles. That doesn't make either of you right or wrong, just different. If you can accept the differences, you could make it work.


Reading material to consider:


Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw (take the tests they will help you determine what you need in a relationship)


My best to you.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:09pm

If you started 'hooking up' first I assume you mean sex. He probably sees the relationship as friends with benefits. If you want a relationship with him then you have to talk to him like a girlfriend would and find out. Ask him what he wants and how he would define what you have now.

Good luck.

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Registered: 07-27-2007
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 1:35pm
no i mean we kissed and everything, i didnt have sex with him for a while, he even told me a few months ago, if u had sex with me right away u wouldnt be my gf right now. the topic came up we were talking about girls who sleep with all these guys and he said that. he asked me out in march and i said yessssss but whenever we meet someone he says this is **** instead of this is my gf but i did that to him too so i dunnnno
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 3:06pm
Hmmm.. then you might just be reading too much into it. Either way, talk to him and find out how he feels about the relationship and how he would define it. He owes you that much and if he freaks out about the question then you really know how he feels.