Is this a good idea?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2004
Is this a good idea?
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 9:52pm
My exboyfriend has contacted me again recently and wants to see me. We never really broke up, but because of circumstances in his life, we never got to see each other and ended up losing contact. It's been a year since we talked seriously or saw each other. My feelings for him have never changed and I think his may still be the same. We've agreed to just take things slow for now. He's having a hard time right now...just with life in general. Past problems coming up and things that are mostly beyond his control. I want to do something for him to get his mind off of everything. About 30 minutes from where we live is an island that you can camp on. You take a ferry over and set up camp in one of about 10 cites. It's pretty secluded (probably about 20 or so people) and seems like a good "get away" place. I will plan everything and probably surprise him with it. We talk like we've always been good friends and I don't think it would be awkward to spend the time together. It would be more as friends than anything romantic. Does this sound like a good idea or do you think it would be wierd? Is this bad timing? Remember that I haven't seen him in a year. Do you have any fun ideas of things that we could do? Other than sexual things.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2004
Sun, 06-20-2004 - 11:37pm
I don't think your idea would fall in the taking it slow catagory. Perhaps down the road, but for now I would suggest keeping it light. If he needs a friend be there for him- movies, play/concert,dinner or walking/hiking are just a few suggestions. I fear your camping idea while very nice may seem to overwhelming to him at this stage of your renewed relationship.

Just my opinion, but I hope it helps.

My very best to you for a happy future!