Good Morning Masterbater

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Registered: 04-03-2007
Good Morning Masterbater
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Tue, 04-03-2007 - 12:57pm
Hello all, please help! I woke up this morning to a strange rubbing sound, soon realizing it was my husband masterbating. I understand this is a normal act, I do it as well, and I'm sure he does it on a dailly basis, but never with me right next to him. I'm so mortified! Should I be? I'm feeling as if he doesn't find me attractive anymore. Should I confront him on this? I don't want him to get embarrassed. I am truley disgusted by this and hopeing someone can ease my mind. Like has anyone else experienced something similar.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 2:50pm

Welcome to the board icekiss2007,


Do you masterbate because you don't find your husband attractive anymore? I am asking because if you that isn't the reason why you do it than why would that be the reason your husband does it.


I am not sure why you find it digusting since you have sex with him.


I think you should just wait and see if it happens again. If it does than you could talk to him about it.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 3:26pm

Hi icekiss,


I have a question...since he was right next to you why didn't you join him, help him, participate?

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Registered: 04-03-2007
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 3:58pm
Thank you for answering I didn't think anyone would. I masterbate b/c it's the only way I can actually orgasm. This is not the problem for him. I didn't really find it that disgusting, it was just more pathetic if anything. Why didn't he turn over and try with me??? I'm just afraid he dosn't want me anymore.
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Registered: 04-03-2007
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 4:00pm
Hello, thanks for answering. Well, I didn't join him b/c I didn't want to embarrass him or startle him. Why didn't he turn to me and try with me instead ya know? I'm just afraid he dosn't find me attractive anymore.
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 4:07pm

It's probably more like he didn't want to wake you up or bother you. Not everyone is in the mood for sex when they first wake up.

If it bothers you, you could agree that he go to the bathroom to masturbate while you're sleeping. I had a boyfriend once who considered it offensive to masturbate next to a sleeping person so we just decided that if we were horny while the other was sleeping, we'd masturbate elsewhere.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 4:12pm

People send out all kinds of signals, verbal, non-verbal, suggestive, direct, etc.


Maybe he thought you were asleep, maybe he was afraid, embarassed to wake you up and/or approach you.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 4:23pm

How is your sex life? Has it slowed down or changed recently?

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Registered: 04-03-2007
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 6:11pm
Coltara, actually it's slowed down a lot, I have a feeling it's b/c of me, I haven't really been feeling very sexual lately, well let's put it this way, I satisfy him when he wants it, but it may not be THE way he wants it. He like wants to have CRAZY sex like every night. It's honestly exhausting to me. So I just end up making it a quickie, just to shut him up.
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Registered: 08-19-2006
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 9:03pm
He is a guy? They are sexually charged, for lack of a better description. So what if he masturbates? I don't think seeing/hearing/witnessing your husband masturbating should be mortifying? Maybe that is just me, though.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 1:47am

>>He like wants to have CRAZY sex like every night. It's honestly exhausting to me. So I just end up making it a quickie, just to shut him up.<<

And here lies the answer as to why he didn't wake you. He knows that you only give him sex to shut him up. He knows that you're exhausted and not interested. So, he looked after himself so that he wouldn't have to accept sympathy sex.

It seem to me that he's in a no-win situation. If he asks for sex, you give it to him just to shut him up. And if he masturbates, you feel he doesn't want you.

Sweetie, you've got two choices here. Give him lots of enthusiastic sex every night. Or if you don't want to have every night sex, don't complain if he masturbates. But you have no right to complain about him not waking you when the sex you have is "a quickie, just to shut him up"

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