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Good Morning Masterbater
| Tue, 04-03-2007 - 12:57pm |
Hello all, please help! I woke up this morning to a strange rubbing sound, soon realizing it was my husband masterbating. I understand this is a normal act, I do it as well, and I'm sure he does it on a dailly basis, but never with me right next to him. I'm so mortified! Should I be? I'm feeling as if he doesn't find me attractive anymore. Should I confront him on this? I don't want him to get embarrassed. I am truley disgusted by this and hopeing someone can ease my mind. Like has anyone else experienced something similar.

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Welcome to the board icekiss2007,
Do you masterbate because you don't find your husband attractive anymore? I am asking because if you that isn't the reason why you do it than why would that be the reason your husband does it.
I am not sure why you find it digusting since you have sex with him.
I think you should just wait and see if it happens again. If it does than you could talk to him about it.
glitter-graphics.com
Hi icekiss,
I have a question...since he was right next to you why didn't you join him, help him, participate?
CL
It's probably more like he didn't want to wake you up or bother you. Not everyone is in the mood for sex when they first wake up.
If it bothers you, you could agree that he go to the bathroom to masturbate while you're sleeping. I had a boyfriend once who considered it offensive to masturbate next to a sleeping person so we just decided that if we were horny while the other was sleeping, we'd masturbate elsewhere.
People send out all kinds of signals, verbal, non-verbal, suggestive, direct, etc.
Maybe he thought you were asleep, maybe he was afraid, embarassed to wake you up and/or approach you.
How is your sex life? Has it slowed down or changed recently?
glitter-graphics.com
>>He like wants to have CRAZY sex like every night. It's honestly exhausting to me. So I just end up making it a quickie, just to shut him up.<<
And here lies the answer as to why he didn't wake you. He knows that you only give him sex to shut him up. He knows that you're exhausted and not interested. So, he looked after himself so that he wouldn't have to accept sympathy sex.
It seem to me that he's in a no-win situation. If he asks for sex, you give it to him just to shut him up. And if he masturbates, you feel he doesn't want you.
Sweetie, you've got two choices here. Give him lots of enthusiastic sex every night. Or if you don't want to have every night sex, don't complain if he masturbates. But you have no right to complain about him not waking you when the sex you have is "a quickie, just to shut him up"
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