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Good Wife/Mom or Bad Wife/Mom
| Mon, 04-28-2008 - 12:10am |
I guess that I am in need of some and advice and direction from non-biases 3rd parties. I am at the end and this is seriously hurting my marriage.

Welcome to the board mtblueaudity,
I strongly suggest marriage counseling. I don't blame you for being upset and frustrated.
A couple of questions...
-Who cared for the children when you were at work?
-Did you return to work when your baby was 6 weeks old because YOU wanted to, or did you feel pressured?
I think it's very understandable why you are frustrated. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't with him.
My advice is to stop trying to please him. Since he's going to complain regardless of what you do, you may as well do what YOU want to do. Your job is going to be a bigger part of your life than his life anyway. He shouldn't be the one making those decisions for you. You're the only one who knows what you'll be happiest doing, and the happier you are with your job, the better it will be for the rest of your family because you'll be able to devote more of yourself to them.
Just ignore him when he starts complaining about what you have or haven't done. You've already tried listening to him and figuring out what exactly he wants and seen that he wasn't able to give you a clear response. There's nothing more you can do so you may as well just go and do what you need to do for yourself.
My daughter is in school now in the first grade; so when she wasn't at school. She was at home with him.
My son was either at daycare or at home with his father.
I returned to work when my son was 6 weeks old basically under the same time of situation that I am undernow. I was told that I had to have a good job, but I needed to be at home and be a good mother.
Welcome to the obard mtblueaudity,
I think you just need to ask him what it is that he really wants to you to do. Remind him that you have had jobs offers that he didn't find acceptable and that when you were working before he made you quit because he didn't like it. Tell him you are confused and don't know what in the world he wants you to do.
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