Got pics in e-mail from friend's hubby

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Got pics in e-mail from friend's hubby
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Sat, 06-05-2004 - 8:39pm
My dh and I have been friends with another couple for almost 10 years, since we were newlyweds. We were neighbors and we now all live in the same small town, though not in the same neighborhood. We have socialized with them often over the last 10 years...dinners, playing cards, concerts, parties, etc. The other gal and I also are into some of the same hobbies and we work on some of our projects together.

Now for my dilemma. My friend's husband, whom I considered to be my friend as well, e-mailed me pictures of his penis.

I was on the phone with him at the time. He called me to ask me to send him some links to help him build a website. I told him I would send them as we spoke, so I got on the computer. He told me he sent me an e-mail from his new address and to send the links to that address. I clicked on the e-mail and he asked me if I looked at the pictures. I hadn't noticed the attachment until that point. So, I clicked on the attachment and opened it up. I was horrified.

I don't remember much of the conversation after that. I remember saying "that's horrible!" and him laughing. I just wanted to end the conversation.

I don't know if he meant it as a joke or what, but he seriously crossed a line. I feel violated in a way.

I told my husband about it. He's upset too...this guy is suppose to be his friend, too.

Now, I don't know what to do. Should I tell my friend (this guy's wife) that her husband sent these pictures to me? Obviously, the friendship between the four of us has been compromised. I just don't know if I should tell her what her husband did. I know it will hurt her, but shouldn't she know? I don't know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Thanks!

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 7:02am

that is sooo sick. and stupid too - what a low life! I am glad that you and your husband are united on this.


as to what to do? I am not sure what to tell you. if you tell her - assuming she has not idea what a jerk her husband is - that will surely end the relationship between you, and HE will probably end up blaming YOU for coming on to him, or some such nonsense.


At this point - I would probably have your husband (or you and your husband together)

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 4:26pm
I agree with the last reply. He definitely crossed a line doing this. I would do what the last reply suggested.
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 4:31pm
That is so crazy. I would end all contact with them.