Growing Up

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Registered: 06-29-2004
Growing Up
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 11:53am
I am a 30 year old woman with 2 children and a husband who is also 30. The problem I am having is that I can't get my husband to grow up and act like he is 30 instead of 19. He constantly acts like the class clown and has to be the center of attention always. I feel like I am raising 3 children not 2. If he isn't the center of attention he creates a crisis to become the center of attention - whether it is an illness blown out of proportion or something going on with someone in his family or whatever. He will even tease our oldest child who is 7 like he too is 7. It drives me crazy and now my family is questioning it. I am not happy and he hasn't always been like this. HELP!!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: jks1597
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 3:06pm
He's not going to change, so you have to take steps to change your reaction to his behavior. 'Dad is sick, let's leave him alone.' And leave him ALONE. And take the steps to help your children cope. My suggestion is that you consider counseling alone or without him, to help you cope with the situation. The dynamics of your relationship won't change, because his behavior is getting him the attention (and reaction) he wants, it's a payoff for him.

Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie