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guy and girl friends?
| Thu, 08-05-2004 - 11:12pm |
I'm used to my finaceé having friends that are girls. His best friend is a girl whom he's been engaged to before and currently still lives with (yes, I know it's weird, but they're more like siblings than anything else). But recently he's been talking to this other girl. I just have a weird feeling about her. I can't help everytime I know he's talking to her to feel jealous. I'm not afraid he'll cheat on me with her. I feel more like she likes him even though she knows he's taken. Like the way she talks to him I feel like she's flirting and trying to "steal" him away. I don't want to accuse her of anything I don't know for sure, but it's also hard to deny my gut feelings. I've talked to him about it, he's reassured me that I'm the only one for him. I trust him. I just don't trust her. I also don't want him to lose a friend because of me, but I don't know how to stop feeling jealous everytime I find out they're talking or when she's mentioned.

Its usually a rule of thumb for me to never ignore my gut feelings, because they are usually right. You owe it to yourself to at least questions their intentions.Heck! he owes it to you and the relationship. You say that you dont wanna make him ruin a freindship??But you'll let her ruin your relationship?
Good luck, keep us posted.
Have you talked to him about this? Have you asked him to relay your feelings to her? If she is not someone you know, ask him to introduce you. Maybe getting to know her on a personal level will aleviate those uneasy feelings. But as the prior reply states, usually you have gut feelings for a reason and they are usually right. "if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck.....its a duck"
Best of luck to you. And I do agree, him being roommates with his ex is a strange situation. You must have alot of faith and trust in your man.
You have a right (and responsibility to yourself) to create boundaries in your relationship that you are comfortable with. If you are uneasy about your fiancee tlking to a woman who you feel is coming onto him, or that makes you feel strange in any other way, it is perfectly appropriate to have to him stop talking to her.
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