guy needs advice

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guy needs advice
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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 7:00am

Hey guys,

Really would appreciate some help on this. My relationship seems to be at the end of the honeymoon period after 6 months, due to this I've lowered my ability to be on form when I'm with her, thinking that things are nearing an end. I've been less affectionate lately, she's been busting my balls a lot and I haven't been too good at bantering back. In the past she has said "I can't imagine you worrying about me." I'm not sure but I don't think that that is necessarily the reason for her interest seeming to decline, but it is probably a part of it. She hasn't said anything is wrong but I can tell things are not the same for her, even though she is still affectionate. But the other night was the first time that we've gone out and she *assumed* I wasn't going back to hers.

My question is this, if I now tell her how I feel and that I care about her, is this going to put it back together in anyway, or is it too late?

Alternatively, is there anything else I could do?

Thanks

Edited 12/5/2007 7:32 am ET by rebel_rebel




Edited 12/5/2007 7:34 am ET by rebel_rebel
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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 11:47am

Welcome to the board rebel_rebel,


If you care about her and don't want to lose her then tell her how you feel about her. It is not to let to do that. Stop acting less affectionately also.

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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:00pm

Welcome to the board rebel_rebel,


All relationships change, especially when the honeymoon phase ends, but there are ways to reconnect, to stay emotionally bonded.

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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:25pm

While there is a decline in the "automatic-ness" of the honeymoon period, it never really has to end.

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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:42pm
Thanks, this is some great advice. When I was a teenager I always gave too much and pushed people away, now I do the opposite. I can be EQ dumb sometimes. I guess I need to find the right balance. Sandra I'm sure that if everyone had the example you had there would be far fewer problems, you're very lucky.