Guys and their girl friends...

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Registered: 01-15-2004
Guys and their girl friends...
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 10:49am
My BF and I have been together for a little over a year. He met someone right before he met me, and I'm pretty sure he fell hard for her. For some reason things ended up not working out for them, but now they are still really good friends. He has never really mentioned her to me at all. I recently saw on his facebook that she is constantly messaging him and writing on his wall, poking him NON-STOP. They talk on msn often, probably even more than we talk. I decided to check his conversation history in msn between them. She is starting to get a little to close for comfort, so I decided to take matters into my own hands. I know it's bad, but I had to. Apparently, she still likes him. They have very in depth converstations about how life could've been for them, and that if they could go back in time to that one day they spent together they both would. The weird thing is, she goes on to say that she is a little apprehensive that he has a gf (me) and that she hopes it's ok that they talk this often on msn. She then says that I seem very respectful of him having girl friends ( which i definately have been trying to be) and he said that yes, i am fine with it 95% of the time, and if i wasn't then I'm not the right girl for him. He then goes on to say that friends last longer than GF's, and that she will always be the one that got away. I am so confused/hurt right now. I don't know how to look at any of this. He is not cheating, but the way he talks to this "friend" really hurts. I feel like he is just settling for me, since he can't have her. He tells me he loves me everyday, calls me sweetheart, hun, and just the other night he turned to me and said " hun, I'm so glad we met."... and I wanted to believe him so bad, but the conversation between him and the girl was just burning in my mind. Please help me make sense of this... I need your opinion!!! What do I do???
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:18pm

Welcome to the board peachy_keen,


I'm sorry you are going though this.