Habits you hate
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| Sat, 01-05-2008 - 4:13pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and I know that he has a habit of smoking and I don't mean just cigaretes. I told him that it made me very uncomfortable when he does it but I don't want him to stop just because I don't like the idea of it.
Last night one of our friends had him on speaker phone and asked him if he wanted to go smoke and he didn't know that I was listening to the conversation. At first he said no but after a while he said if you can find a car then come down and we will. I find this to be a betrayl because early that day he promised me he would quit. I confronted him and he told me that he was just joking but I think that that was a cover up just so I wouldn't be mad.
I don't know how I will trust him if he is going to do that when he doesn't think that I am listening. I could really use some advise because we are engaged and I want to figure out how I can live with this before I marry him and I want to be able to trust him. He has lied to

You're engaged after six months? How old are you? Why are you engaged to this guy and why do you feel like you know him/yourself/your relationship after dating such an incredibly short time before taking this step?
You don't ask someone to quit something. You met him when he was smoking, I assume... Well you're engaged to a druggie and I think you should understand the consequences of that. He probably gets along with his friends under the pretense that they will be smoking together. He can't even quit a matter of hours after he promises to. I'm not sure what you find so great about him but this whole situation has me shaking my head.
At six months you're still getting to know someone and realistically, this is the BEST you will ever see of him. I'd give your relationship some serious time and effort before taking that step into marriage... It's NOT a step you can take back easily.