Halloween Costume

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Registered: 10-14-2013
Halloween Costume
Tue, 10-29-2013 - 10:32pm

I have a sexy French maid outfit that I wear for my b/f.  It's revealing but I am very comfortable in when around my b/f.

The problem is that my b/.f wants me to wear this to a halloween party on Saturday night. I'm not sure what to do here, part of me says its OK and part of me says no. 

I guess it's really no diffenent than wearing a bikini to the beach but...............

Has anyone else worn a revealing outfit to a halloween party?  Should I be concerned? Advise Please

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Registered: 10-14-2013
Fri, 11-01-2013 - 4:39pm

Thanks -- There is really  no pressure. Just considering the appropriatness of the outfit. As you said, it would probably be more embarassing than fun.


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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 10-31-2013 - 12:34am

The question isn't "should you be concerned".......you ARE concerned.  And therefore you will not be comfortable and you won't enjoy the party.  Wearing it for your b/f is one thing, but him using it to show you off like "look what I've got".......Don't wear it.

And if there's going to be drinking at the party, some drunk will probably hit on you, and your b/f won't like that much! 

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 4:36pm

Good observations from both PPs.  Your BF wants to show you off...but you're not an object or a possession. When you go to a party, do you want to have fun or do you want men leering at you and women saying unkind things?  Wouldn't you rather go as something funny or clever and have people say, "Oh, you have such a GREAT costume!" The only people who will say that if you wear your French maid outfit will be the men who are ogling you.  Honestly, that seems more embarrassing than fun.

What is appropriate in private is not necessarily appropriate in public.  Many people think the whole business of "Halloween is my chance to look sexy" is way overdone.  Unless you're a college student, it's not amusing. There's also a difference between being uninhibited (e.g. the short guy who puts on a wig and goes as Richard Simmons) and being an exhibit!onist.  Based on your question, I'm guessing you're not an exhibit!onist.

PS - believe it or not, "exhibit!onist" triggered iVillage's profanity filter. LOL!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:48am

The difference is that at the beach everyone else will be in a bathing suit so you won't feel conspicuous.  I'd say it depends on how revealing it is and what your figure is like.  My 24 yr old DD could wear one of those costumes and not be that bad since she is flat chested.  But if you are built like Sofia Vergara or older than your 20's, I think you might re-think it.  And are these people that you know well?  If not, you might not want to wear something too sexy.

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Registered: 02-25-2013
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 9:29am

Sounds like your bf wants to showcase you to his friends. It's more important that you have fun at the party, and if you're not totally comfortable, you won't have fun. Pick out something else to wear.