Hanging out with someone else

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Registered: 05-13-2008
Hanging out with someone else
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:58pm

I am so confused.I did not see this coming. My bf and I have been dating for almost 3 yrs. I just found out that he was creeping out of the house to go cuddle and watch movies with a friend of his that had a crush on him. He's been telling her that he's only with me because of his son and telling her that I am a bitch. When I found this out and confronted him, he says that he said those things out of frustration. He said his actions have nothing to do with me and that he has a problem with

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 11:40pm

Welcome to the board stilllovinhim,


::he says that he said those things out of frustration.


It may have been out of frustration, but it was also to vent, to build a closeness with her, to justify is decision to sneek out of the house and be with her.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 7:10am

A man tells a woman that she is too good for him for no reason other than because it is the truth. This is one of the most important things a guy can say to you; it means that if you stay with him you will be WELL WARNED that he does not think he can OR WILL live up to the standards that you set for yourself and others. He's telling you that you should break up with him, and if you don't, this is what you can EXPECT of him in the future.

I'm so sorry, three years is a long time to be with someone for this to happen. But you really are too good for him.

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Registered: 05-13-2008
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 2:26pm
Well I broke up with him. I have kicked him out of my house, but he's still there claiming that he does not have the resources to move at the moment. I don't want to just kick him out on the streets, but his staying there is really testing my patience.
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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 4:25pm

I like you, you don't mess around.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 8:19pm

what about that other chick he is sneaking out to see.

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Registered: 05-13-2008
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 9:04pm
I do agree. The thing is they stopped 'hanging out' since the whole situation blew up. Not that this has changed my decision, but when I found out what happened I did tell him to go over to her house and stay. Matter of fact I called her and let her know that he will be needing a place to stay. He's still here. I just think it is so ghetto and unbecoming as a young woman
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Registered: 07-29-2002
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 9:32pm

nah.

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 11:28pm

"Angry and with in your rights......... yes."


If the OP owns/leases the home by herself, then, yes, she is within her rights to get him to leave, and if he won't she can have him arrested for trespassing.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 7:12am
I think it's actually more ghetto to stay. Breakups happen to everyone, not just young women
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Registered: 05-13-2008
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 10:01am
Interesting. How is that more ghetto? I am not staying anywhere. It's my house and I already asked him to leave. He said he was leaving. I packed all his stuff and its at my door. I guess I just need to courage to just tell him I don't care what his money situation is and he just needs to go. I

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