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have I been cheated on?
| Wed, 03-03-2004 - 6:12pm |
Hello everyone!
Ok, here is the deal. My fiance and I have been together for 4 years, and we just got engaged 3 months ago. We are in a long distance relationship right now because we both attend different universities for graduate school. I went to stay with him last week for my spring break and discovered he has been having cyber sex with a number of women. I also found a personal ad on a friend-finding site. The site is not specific to dating, and there were no messages or people he had been talking to on it, but, still, it was there. I was a little dazed about it at first but now I am really starting to get angry. He told me he was sorry and that he would never have cybersex again,and he deleated the ad (that he said he had forgotten was even there) but I don't know if I can believe him. I love him so much, and I just don't know what to do. Am I over-reacting? Under-reacting? If this happened to any of you, what would you do? I don't want our relationship to end, but I am really hurt and angry
Thanks for your help...
Ok, here is the deal. My fiance and I have been together for 4 years, and we just got engaged 3 months ago. We are in a long distance relationship right now because we both attend different universities for graduate school. I went to stay with him last week for my spring break and discovered he has been having cyber sex with a number of women. I also found a personal ad on a friend-finding site. The site is not specific to dating, and there were no messages or people he had been talking to on it, but, still, it was there. I was a little dazed about it at first but now I am really starting to get angry. He told me he was sorry and that he would never have cybersex again,and he deleated the ad (that he said he had forgotten was even there) but I don't know if I can believe him. I love him so much, and I just don't know what to do. Am I over-reacting? Under-reacting? If this happened to any of you, what would you do? I don't want our relationship to end, but I am really hurt and angry
Thanks for your help...

I'm not sure what to tell you as far as what I would do. At the very least, I would definitely be re-evaluating things. Obviously, you cannot trust them as much as you thought and that's definitely something to think long and hard about.
I would certainly be upset as well, and he needs to understand that what he did was cheating and he needs to realize the harm that has done to your relationship and be willing to work with you to repair that damage.
James
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